We know we shouldn’t but we do. We overreact and then it is too late.
Everyday life is full of events and reactions! I know I can overreact a little when I am stressed, overwhelmed, or don’t know what to do for the best.
We experience our day-to-day lives through our 5 senses (see, hear, speak, smell, touch) and our view of the world around us and our experience of life changes are reactions.
But, do we want to continue reacting the way we do?
Without understanding we can be blind to opportunities which could help us lead an easier and happier day-to-day life.
So, how do we get understanding?
Seemingly “self-awareness” is the new mindfulness.
Learning is about having a deep understanding of a subject. To learn anything, you need to think about it.
Understanding hold the potential for a more positive future.
“To know others and know thyself, and you will not be endangered by innumerable battles”.
The Art of War
This applies between nations as well as within the family. Understanding is about preventing arguments and tensions within families. It is about saving parents stress, time, and money to help them get on the front foot, take action now to prevent a whole load of stress.
This is why I always start with understanding, helping parents to understand themselves and why they parent the way they do as well as their children and why they behave the way they do.
Understanding gives you new perspective on day-to-day life challenges.
Increasing your understanding automatically helps you to calm down. Understanding uses our logical brains to turn down our emotional brains. Increased understanding can help us to reduce anxiety, worry and improve our mental wellbeing.
We think we know ourselves, but do we? Self-awareness is the new “mindfulness”.
I think self-understanding is even more important. Do not underestimate the difference understanding ourselves can make in our day-to-day lives. Then comes understanding others, our families, children and work colleagues and why they think and behave the way they do.
People don’t remember what we say but they do remember how we make them feel.
How do you want the people you meet in everyday life to feel about you?
Too much information
I like to focus on the essentials, the practical stuff that can help us in our busy day today lives.
Problem is, there is so much information out there about how to help ourselves. So, let’s bring it back to basics and go from there.
I put understanding at the front and centre everything I do.
If we want to improve our mental health, reduce our levels of anxiety and help our children. We need to start with us, to become aware of ourselves, what makes us tick, where do we get our energy from, what drains us and what we need to keep going and create that non-anxious presence at home.
Understanding has made a huge difference
Since starting my journey in 2012, a growing understanding of myself has transformed my confidence and self-esteem. It helps me understand why I react the way I certain circumstances, why I avoid certain people but attracted to other people.
It has taught me what I need to keep going and how best I can manage my mental health.
It has helped me to accept myself in new ways and realise that I will never be able to decide on a life goal and a detailed plan of how to get there!
It has taught me to enjoy being who I am whilst at the same time helping me to improve the things that let me down e.g. proofreading – getting better but not perfect!
In summary, understanding yourself and others helps you to:
- Stay calm
- Gives you a new perspective
- Tackle the same old challenges and new ways
- Trigger curiosity about your own as well as your family’s behaviours
- Enable you to get on the front foot so you can have a calmer, easier day-to-day family life
My plans to help
Understanding myself and others absolutely fascinates me. The courses I’m currently writing will give parents a unique insight into why they parent the way they do as well as why their children react the way they do.
I want to help you make your day-to-day life simpler, easier and calmer – my courses will help so I will let you know how my plans progress!